There isn’t one. Or at least there isn’t one scientifically proven to heal all wounds. If there was, we wouldn’t have hospitals, we would have mega churches. This does not discredit the idea that there are true miracles in this world, it’s just my way of saying that if there was a scientifically proven method of healing without medical intervention, we’d probably hear about it, at least on the news. Unless one of the Kardashians went ahead and did something stupid, then we would probably hear about it the next day.
However, religion does heal.
Didn’t I just say that it didn’t?
Well, what I mean is that religion plays a huge role in our lives, whether we think about it consciously or not. It heals in that it helps us to answer questions we can't answer, giving us comfort. In times of need or distress, we are able to cling to the belief that there is a reason in an unreasonable situation.
For a better, more all-inclusive word, for the rest of this blog, I am going to change that phrase to spirituality. Not in a free spirited, New Age way. More of an all-encompassing, whatever you believe in, I’m-not-here-to-judge phrasing of the word to incorporate all thoughts on what is beyond what we see, smell, taste, hear, and touch in our world.
Now, spiritualism, like I said, plays a huge role in our lives. It creates existential comfort with our lives and where we are going. In counseling, you try to figure some of that stuff out. If you’re in a session with a therapist, and you find yourself talking about the meaning of things more than the actual act, you are in part participating in a conversation about spiritualism.
We all wonder the great questions of the universe at some point: why are we here, who put us here, where do we go when we die, what’s it like behind the veil, etc.? If you find yourself struggling to cope with these feelings of not knowing, spirituality may be the key to confronting some of those answers.
Spirituality brings us comfort in the uncomfortable. It helps to fill that need for meaning in what we do with our time on Earth. Now, I’m not saying run out and jump on the first band wagon religion you can find and accept it wholeheartedly. I think that there should be
a healthy exploration though and it doesn’t have to be a one size fits all approach. Examine what’s written in the Bible, pull some of the teachings of the Buddha, and some concepts of Judaism and call it a day.
Spirituality is one of those rare, private concepts, that can be entirely yours, and I encourage you to make it that way. Make it what you want, because ultimately, you need to bring yourself comfort with these bigger questions, so why not have your own approach.
For those that know me, it will come as no surprise that the writing of J.K. Rowling (you might know her from writing one of the greatest stories ever, the Harry Potter series) has the right idea, I think. No spoiler, but the theme of love is very present in her writing. So, when answering most of the questions about the existential existence, my answers would all be love. Love for your family, friends, spouse, work, pets, country, music, movies, and everything else that brings you joy.
If you are having trouble with some of these questions, seek out someone to help you. Whether that’s a trusted religious official, a close friend, spouse, or of course, a counselor, you deserve to be heard, to question, to doubt, and to find peace and solace in your beliefs, whatever they are.